Expats who Call Their GF's 'Wife', When They Aren't Married

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Re: Expats who Call Their GF's 'Wife', When They Aren't Marr

Postby picooie » Fri May 30, 2014 1:32 pm

Joon,

If you start calling your gf songsa you are going to get a slap in the face most likely. Songsa is mistress/ backup lover. Mith Srey is gf. The last one prapone/ padai is wife and husband.

I have been with my wife for 11 years and she has been called that pretty much the whole time. Common law is good for me.

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Re: Expats who Call Their GF's 'Wife', When They Aren't Marr

Postby Joon » Fri May 30, 2014 1:44 pm

Thanks, Picooie, but I'm pretty confident I know what I'm talking about. Songsa doesn't always and commonly have the extra-marital relationship connotation.

But it is mostly used by kids, teenagers and young adults. Valentine's Day is commonly called "Bon Songsa" (Lovers' Day), although there is a trend to call it "Bon ney Sechkdey Srolanh" (The Day of Love). There's also a well-known, private island called Koh Songsaa (Sweethearts Island).

The commonly used terms for mistresses are "srey, propoun chong, and sahay."
But yes, if people know you're married, they could use "songsa" as a euphemism to refer to your adulterous lover.
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Re: Expats who Call Their GF's 'Wife', When They Aren't Marr

Postby picooie » Fri May 30, 2014 5:25 pm

The adulterous lover connotation is what I hear quite frequently with the people I am around. At least in my circles songsa is basically a mistress or an afternoon lover. But that is not going so far as calling a girl srey pesha. FYI I am trying to spell phonetically.

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Re: Expats who Call Their GF's 'Wife', When They Aren't Marr

Postby FreeSocrates! » Sat May 31, 2014 4:38 pm

I thought... (I'll ask my Khmer instructor tomorrow for clarification, if it can mean other things)

Songsa = Sweetheart.

If your married and calling a someone your "Sweetheart" your obviously going to have problems.
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Re: Expats who Call Their GF's 'Wife', When They Aren't Marr

Postby Digg3r » Sat May 31, 2014 5:25 pm

I referred to my (ex) khmer partner as wife. We never married. We couldn't as she was already married to another foreigner who she fucked over. I did not see that as a warning sign that she'd fuck me over too. Silly me...
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Re: Expats who Call Their GF's 'Wife', When They Aren't Marr

Postby dagenham » Sat May 31, 2014 5:29 pm

Digg3r wrote:I referred to my (ex) khmer partner as wife. We never married. We couldn't as she was already married to another foreigner who she fucked over. I did not see that as a warning sign that she'd fuck me over too. Silly me...
Interesting...I've never heard of a Barang being "fucked over" by a Khmer woman...I thought that they all were meek, mild, quiet, obedient, subservient...just little jewels wrapped in pure silk...
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Re: Expats who Call Their GF's 'Wife', When They Aren't Marr

Postby Digg3r » Sat May 31, 2014 5:30 pm

Yeah, one in a million...
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Re: Expats who Call Their GF's 'Wife', When They Aren't Marr

Postby picooie » Sat May 31, 2014 6:15 pm

I asked my wife to clarify the songsa thing. She said that before you are married and are bf and gf songsa is the common term. People who are married and have a songsa now that is a mistress. I am around a bunch of 30 to 50 yo women and when they say songsa it is definately the extra marital version.
Joon you were right.

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