Expats who Call Their GF's 'Wife', When They Aren't Married
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Roughly 1 year seems to be the defacto cut-off where you start earning this label at least for the people I know.thePeck wrote:It's to both: Khmer/Khmer or Barang/Khmer. It could have originally been to save face and maybe still, in more conservative families.
But after 1yr my gf calls me her husband and I call her my wife. It's taken different by different people. Her province knows we aren't "married" but we sleep in the same room and kiss/hold hands outside. It's just agreed we are.
At least there is a probationary period.
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Being fairly new to PP, what is culturally acceptable for public displays of affection here? Is holding hands OK? Hugging?thePeck wrote: Her province knows we aren't "married" but we sleep in the same room and kiss/hold hands outside. It's just agreed we are.
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None! No! Oh God, no!Mrs Stroppy wrote:Being fairly new to PP, what is culturally acceptable for public displays of affection here? Is holding hands OK? Hugging?
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Holding hands and holding arms for couples are A-Okay.
His arm around her waist or shoulder is also no problem.
Leaning onto his shoulder while seated should also be okay. Chaste kisses (not French/wet) on the lips, on the cheeks, the forehead should also not raise an eyebrow since I assume you would look in public as a long-time married couple.
Brief hugs on the safe side.
I have to think hard because been a long time I didn't have any PDAs
His arm around her waist or shoulder is also no problem.
Leaning onto his shoulder while seated should also be okay. Chaste kisses (not French/wet) on the lips, on the cheeks, the forehead should also not raise an eyebrow since I assume you would look in public as a long-time married couple.
Brief hugs on the safe side.
I have to think hard because been a long time I didn't have any PDAs
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Re: Expats who Call Their GF's 'Wife', When They Aren't Marr
My partner does this as well, and we're in a Western-on-Western relationship. So it's not just Cambodians. I am not sure what the translation is in Khmer, but in English we call it "wishful thinking."
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Lol it definitely seems true.FreeSocrates! wrote:Roughly 1 year seems to be the defacto cut-off where you start earning this label at least for the people I know.thePeck wrote:It's to both: Khmer/Khmer or Barang/Khmer. It could have originally been to save face and maybe still, in more conservative families.
But after 1yr my gf calls me her husband and I call her my wife. It's taken different by different people. Her province knows we aren't "married" but we sleep in the same room and kiss/hold hands outside. It's just agreed we are.
At least there is a probationary period.
Mrs Stroppy wrote:Being fairly new to PP, what is culturally acceptable for public displays of affection here? Is holding hands OK? Hugging?thePeck wrote: Her province knows we aren't "married" but we sleep in the same room and kiss/hold hands outside. It's just agreed we are.
In Phnom Penh at least. I've heard others say that when they visit their gf's family in the province that holding hands was on the fringe of acceptable. Just normal, chaste kisses, was a completely intolerable. And he had to stay in her brothers house or some outhouse type thing lol the night he stayed.Joon wrote:Holding hands and holding arms for couples are A-Okay.
His arm around her waist or shoulder is also no problem.
Leaning onto his shoulder while seated should also be okay. Chaste kisses (not French/wet) on the lips, on the cheeks, the forehead should also not raise an eyebrow since I assume you would look in public as a long-time married couple.
Brief hugs on the safe side.
I have to think hard because been a long time I didn't have any PDAs
My gf has told me that when she was a child, 5 years ago.... I'm just kidding. But ya like 1995 here, the guy never talked to the girl, unless it was during the meeting of families when he asks her family to marry her. She never knew a guy liked her until his family came or talk to hers. She then said she'd either refuse to come down or run out of the house lol.
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I never called my western gf's anything beyond gf. Any many times during the right time I was more colorful in my descriptions of our relationship and my needs.giblet wrote:My partner does this as well, and we're in a Western-on-Western relationship. So it's not just Cambodians. I am not sure what the translation is in Khmer, but in English we call it "wishful thinking."
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Take it as a statement of intent, or as we say in the west, "RUN, FORREST, RUN"giblet wrote:My partner does this as well, and we're in a Western-on-Western relationship. So it's not just Cambodians. I am not sure what the translation is in Khmer, but in English we call it "wishful thinking."
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Re: Expats who Call Their GF's 'Wife', When They Aren't Marr
FreeSocrates! wrote:
But what is the reason they do it? Are they forced into it by their 'Wife'? Does it give the 'Wife' more status? Is it to save face, because they are shacking up before they are actually married?
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