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CAMBOGUY123 wrote: Tue Sep 25, 2018 4:43 pm Yes I am in Cambodia. ..... She is a wild animal now and that is not an exaggeration.
As you probably know Cambodia is crawling with NGOs whose mission is to protect children. A number of them seem to hang out at the street that makes a T-intersection with street 172 in PP. They can easily be approached. And there is a children's school there.

The family that runs Golden Home guest house and restaurant on street 172 is very trustworthy. Don't know yet how they could be approached on this matter, but there are always a bunch of kids from their extended family running around.
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CAMBOGUY123 wrote: Tue Sep 25, 2018 4:43 pm Yes I am in Cambodia. Yes, I am listed as the father on the birth certificate. My son is days away from being prostituted out himself. As for their scope, I wish they at least had the decency to respond to me and tell me that this is not in their scope....

I have emailed them, and they do not list a physical address in Siem Reap, although rumor has it that they have an office here. As for my phone, she smashed it several times and I finally had to finish it off due to it not working. Money is tight. I just started a new job. Now have to pay back hundreds in work permit back payments and a new one year visa.

I saw other Child Safe posts that said Cambodian Law states that the man will have custody of his first born son regardless of his nationality. Don't know if this is true or not. Baby has no passport at all and I have not registered him with my embassy yet. I have been focused on finding work, and had to return to the U.S. myself for 4 months due to a major injury I sustained here. This came at me relatively suddenly. She has gone insane. She is a wild animal now and that is not an exaggeration.
When were you in the USA for four months? Because you posted on June 29 and August 15 that you were in Cambodia and out of money and borderline homeless and that you thought you were being "set up" by a friend who was trying to sabotage your visa.

Is it possible that your wife is not on the verge of prostituting your baby and that you are instead just on the meth?
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There's always one....
Went to USA Oct to Jan. Have been back since Jan but we had money up until May. June July August were the months that the situation occurred albeit slowly. No, I don't do Meth.

Have appt with Child safe at police station at 430 today.
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CAMBOGUY123 wrote: Tue Sep 25, 2018 4:43 pm This came at me relatively suddenly. She has gone insane. She is a wild animal now and that is not an exaggeration.
What happened? Drugs, gambling, debts? Was she living with you and one day she became crazy out of the blue and took off?

Is she a bargirl? Did she demand money?
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I don't think giving the OP the third degree is productive.
It's obvious the child needs a better environment.
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We both moved back to the village for a long time, but I left to find work. One day my bike broke down and I had no money left to repair it. I was working at a pub on the night shift for money to repair it. I worked for this Indian/Cambodian guy for 30 days (every day) 16 hours a shift. I didn't miss a day, but I had no way to get back to her. He offered me 160$ for the month and I lived there. I was desperate for cash, but after the month ended he paid me 30$.

I was at the end of my rope. Almost literally.

I then got a call out of the blue from a school which I applied to months before. I pushed my motorcycle 18 kilometers back to the village with my 30$ because I knew I would get the best deal there on repairs. I got the job, but had to wait another month for my salary. I love it. I am a great teacher. I love Cambodia, I love teaching and I love these kids. I am now doing fine. But upon my return to her, in those two months, she got involved in drugs. She is now totally gone in that short amount of time.

I have tried moving her back in, but its the same story every time. She stays for 3 days, detoxes and goes nuts. Then out come the knives, threats and attacks. When hitting me yielded no results, she hit the baby to get at me. I can't focus on her anymore. It's about saving my son now. Many people said to just go back to the states, but I stayed. It hasn't been easy but I am doing the best I can.

As for the comment about camping out and forgetting about the job... what would I do for money when it was gone? Where would I live? Under a bridge? How would I buy him food? It's easy to sit in front of a computer, detached from this reality, spouting out illogical comments I suppose. Believe me, I would love to run in there and just take him and put down everyone that tried to stop me. I could. After 14 years in the military and multiple combat tours I could do it. But what would it get me? Prison, and then he's back to her. What would that accomplish?
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You're going through hell and I respect you for focusing on the boy. Please keep us informed about how your 16:30 meeting goes.
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Look,if ur name is on the bc, than go get a lawyer and inform him whats going on
He will get you a court date, you prove what your saying here in court and i guarantee you will get sole custody ( been there, done that)
BUT you need $$$
Wasn't there a thread about some guy that hired someone to "Kidnap" his son back> (am sure Gav can find it)

Believe me, lawyer an court is the way to go... Anything else will just be a temporary fix...
You NEED the court to give u sole custody!
In a nation run by swine, all pigs are upward-mobile and the rest of us are fucked until we can put our acts together: not necessarily to win, but mainly to keep from losing completely. HST
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phuketrichard wrote: Wed Sep 26, 2018 4:57 pm Look,if ur name is on the bc, than go get a lawyer and inform him whats going on
He will get you a court date, you prove what your saying here in court and i guarantee you will get sole custody ( been there, done that)
BUT you need $$$
Wasn't there a thread about some guy that hired someone to "Kidnap" his son back> (am sure Gav can find it)

Believe me, lawyer an court is the way to go... Anything else will just be a temporary fix...
You NEED the court to give u sole custody!
I agree ...but as he has stated already, he's dead broke.
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Last time i was dead broke in a foreign country was back in 1975 India,
Swore, NEVER AGAIN
In a nation run by swine, all pigs are upward-mobile and the rest of us are fucked until we can put our acts together: not necessarily to win, but mainly to keep from losing completely. HST
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