Cam Nivag wrote: ↑Tue May 07, 2019 8:54 am

rozzieoz wrote: ↑Sun May 05, 2019 1:47 pm
I guess I do stand out in a crowd- I’m white, tallish, redhead with big boobs and I’m friendly.

This means that I have a lot of conversations with a LOT of people - most of them are lovely but that’s not what this thread is about.

I think that may be what the thread is about. You are a friendly, welcoming and outgoing regular at some bars and therefore socially awkward guys feel comfortable saying something to you, or pretending to slap your shoulder, or something like that. They wouldn't do that if a stuck up bitch like Lilith from the TV show Cheers was sitting at the bar reading a book.

When you respond to their attempts to be social by giving them a death stare or telling them them to butt out of your conversation, they are embarrassed and offended and respond poorly.

Here's a parallel. I don't really know Brett Sciaroni at all, but I know him to be a regular barfly who acts loud and chatty in bars. If I were sitting next to him at Larry's, and I saw/heard him carrying on and holding court with the girls and making goo goo sounds in Khmer or whatever that shit is he does, I might feel emboldened to actually speak to another human and try to say something friendly about whatever he and the girls are chatting about. And if Brett then just stared at me or said "mind your fucking business" then that would be surprising and I'd be hurt and embarrassed and might say something rude back.

Whereas if someone like Felgerkarb was sitting all night at a bar silently brooding over his drinks and looking intimidating, no one would ever try to talk to him and thus these awkward incidents don't happen with him.

You're giving off a friendly, approachable, outgoing vibe and then when guys try to say something friendly to you, you bluntly tell them to fuck off. And then the guy flies into a rage because he gets PTSD flashbacks to Saturday night on Street 130 when he propositioned a Street 130 hooker and she laughed and told him "Yes, I'm a hooker, but I'm not having sex with YOU."