Being a “single” woman in Phnom Penh

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Re: Being a “single” woman in Phnom Penh

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Sorry that happened to you Roz. I get peeved too when all you want is your space and the world just keeps intruding upon it.
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rozzieoz wrote: Fri Apr 26, 2019 2:22 am
explorer wrote:Walk away. Go and sit on the other side of the room.
He was being a douche. I was sitting in my usual seat I’ve sat in for over a . Year. Why was it up to me to move?
It was your choice to go to a bar, when you know people often get drunk and do dastardly deeds there. Like i said, you did nothing to cause the incident, but you are partly responsible for it, because you chose to go there.

It's difficult to accept that part, but it's true.
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Tarndog wrote:
rozzieoz wrote: Fri Apr 26, 2019 2:22 am
explorer wrote:Walk away. Go and sit on the other side of the room.
He was being a douche. I was sitting in my usual seat I’ve sat in for over a . Year. Why was it up to me to move?
It was your choice to go to a bar, when you know people often get drunk and do dastardly deeds there. Like i said, you did nothing to cause the incident, but you are partly responsible for it, because you chose to go there.

It's difficult to accept that part, but it's true.
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fax wrote:
rozzieoz wrote: Thu Apr 25, 2019 10:53 pm As a man, what would you have done in that situation?
Start preparing mentally to hurt or get hurt and wait for the right moment to decide whether to go for knocking first punch or let him strike first. It depends who is witnessing and which side they may take.
I was very tempted to buy a beer and clumsily spill it all over him on the way out.
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I'd move to another spot in the bar explaining to bar staff why you needed to move its then thier call what to do if he follows you.
disappointed many here would resort to violence to solve their problems violence never helped anyone especially over here
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rozzieoz wrote: Fri Apr 26, 2019 8:36 am I was very tempted to buy a beer and clumsily spill it all over him on the way out.
As a general rule, dont spend your life trying to get back at idiots. They will do something stupid to someone else, and someone else will teach them.

Just do positive things in your life.
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atst wrote: Fri Apr 26, 2019 8:42 am I'd move to another spot in the bar explaining to bar staff why you needed to move its then thier call what to do if he follows you.
disappointed many here would resort to violence to solve their problems violence never helped anyone especially over here
Learn the Cambodian way. Just walk away.
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While he was yelling at me, I was frozen. I was trying my best to hold it together.
I was actually scared to move in case he saw that as a “hostile action.”

There was a man sitting on the other side of me, who knew him. He did not get involved.
The bar staff (also all women) didn’t really know what to do.


At least in my own bar the barman would tell the asshole to shut up and not assume I was somehow at fault, just by being there.
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rozzieoz wrote: Fri Apr 26, 2019 1:56 am This sort of thing happens regularly. One really big reason why I wanted my own bar.
"Wanted" ? You should make that happen. I'll be a doorman for you, no pay. I'll just need a letter of employment come visa time. :mrgreen:

Unless you're going to resort to violence, there's almost nothing you could do to correct this guys boorish behavior that his own mother didn't try to do over the course of his entire worthless, shit-eating life.

When I hang out with bogans I keep a rolled up magazine tucked in my back pocket, cause odds are, they're going to need a rap on the nose at some point during the night. Just like some wayward doberman pinscher.

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Brody wrote:
rozzieoz wrote: Fri Apr 26, 2019 1:56 am This sort of thing happens regularly. One really big reason why I wanted my own bar.
"Wanted" ? You should make that happen. I'll be a doorman for you, no pay. I'll just need a letter of employment come visa time. :mrgreen:

Unless you're going to resort to violence, there's almost nothing you could do to correct this guys boorish behavior that his own mother didn't try to do over the course of his entire worthless, shit-eating life.

When I hang out with bogans I keep a rolled up magazine tucked in my back pocket, cause odds are, they're going to need a rap on the nose at some point during the night. Just like some wayward doberman pinscher.

Bogans: They only understand force; they only respect violence.
Brody you missed the news. I’m taking over the management of Downstairs @ Oscar on May 1. Ric will be barman.
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