aggression projection

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Re: aggression projection

Post by Phnom Poon » Thu Nov 07, 2019 5:12 pm

Mishmash wrote:
Thu Nov 07, 2019 4:26 pm
Mish advice level 11

A bird in the hand is worth two in the bush

However - always keep your birds in the bush.

Send yr gratitude to my ABA account please
what's a bush in the hand worth?

it annoys me when people call, but when I answer, they just continue conversing with someone next to them
i now just hang up

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monstra mihi bona!
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Re: aggression projection

Post by Mishmash » Thu Nov 07, 2019 5:18 pm

Phnom Poon wrote:
Thu Nov 07, 2019 5:12 pm
Mishmash wrote:
Thu Nov 07, 2019 4:26 pm
Mish advice level 11

A bird in the hand is worth two in the bush

However - always keep your birds in the bush.

Send yr gratitude to my ABA account please
what's a bush in the hand worth?

it annoys me when people call, but when I answer, they just continue conversing with someone next to them
i now just hang up
About half the bird in the hand according to the street feedback :beer3:

Mish advice - if the person calling has 'talents' take to stage two personal interview
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Re: aggression projection

Post by andy1 » Fri Nov 08, 2019 12:26 am

Mishmash wrote:
Thu Nov 07, 2019 5:18 pm
Phnom Poon wrote:
Thu Nov 07, 2019 5:12 pm
Mishmash wrote:
Thu Nov 07, 2019 4:26 pm
Mish advice level 11

A bird in the hand is worth two in the bush

However - always keep your birds in the bush.

Send yr gratitude to my ABA account please
what's a bush in the hand worth?

I prefer mine without the bush but generally speaking a wallet that is $30 lighter.
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Re: aggression projection

Post by SternAAlbifrons » Fri Nov 08, 2019 1:45 am

^^^
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:shrug: :BangHead:

sorry, i've forgotten
what were we talking about?
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Re: aggression projection

Post by Kung-fu Hillbilly » Fri Nov 08, 2019 2:59 am

The selfish gene rebels against anything that doesn't subscribe to or aid the organism's phenotype.

This is not a geographic issue.
The idea that seeing the world is going from place to place to look at obvious things is an illusion natural to dull minds.
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Re: aggression projection

Post by SternAAlbifrons » Fri Nov 08, 2019 3:16 am

Mr.November wrote:
Thu Nov 07, 2019 4:49 pm
I heard that working in an NGO in Cambodia as an expat is not too bad, I read it is about traveling the countryside with Khmer assistants, counting cows and raking in $5000+ a month. Could you share some insight into the current vacancies? I feel I am qualified, and currently looking for a new opportunity.
lol. Maybe true in part. You must have more reliable and relevant knowledge about this than me .
i can only speak of what i know - not the gossip, sniping and cheap shots of the more worldly.

In my field all the expats, and the local skilled staff, are working on about half what they get in the private sector. (fact)
They work bloody hard - 24 hour lifestyle jobs. And if you think it is all a breezy lark counting cows with your chauffeur - you are "under informed". It is the most challenging environment in the world to put your skills to work.
And thankless.

(spoken as an eternal independent, no skin in the game, but a somewhat informed close observer)
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Re: aggression projection

Post by Ghostwriter » Fri Nov 08, 2019 5:42 am

curiosity wrote:
Thu Nov 07, 2019 2:02 pm
Dear folks,

I have been thinking about something I have noticed in different circumstances in PP. There does not seem to be a name for it, so I'll call it aggression projection. For example, people working at a certain NGO will think that literally any other NGO in PP is evil. No other NGO can even be remotely good. That sounds very unrealistic, yet I have heard it from quite a few people working at quite a few NGOs. Can that be really true or is that projecting something?
Another thing I found very curious is what I observed when somebody left (either to get another job or to return to their home country). Leaving causes a huge amount of distress in people. And then the person who is leaving gets trashed like there is no tomorrow. This often continues months after the person has left. Khmer people are especially good at trashing people who left, but foreigners do it too. I get it that there might have been things you tend to get angry about only when you do not have to interact with the cause of your anger every day. But when you see it happening for each person who leaves, this must be some of projection too. Like there is this understanding that a person is only good as long as this person is around you and when that person leaves, the person suddenly becomes evil. What are you thoughts on this?
I think that well may be caused by recent history. The survivors did have to gather by random groups instead of families, and had to watch for themselves. Therefore, having very little to survive, any help was and instant benefit, and any loss an instant deprivation of means of survival. So, a leaver, a quitter, a traitor, the limits are blurry.
And also having to act same as the others, as an habit from fear. So, bashing together, and other mass-effect stuff.
Maybe it's a frequent effect in similar distressed population ? One would have to ask a sociologist or else...

Anyway, your observations on the following generation sounds like a riplle effect of that era, to me. There must be many other observations on the society related to that vibe.
I'd be curious to know more.
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Re: aggression projection

Post by newkidontheblock » Fri Nov 08, 2019 6:50 am

Accepting the phone call, but then putting the phone on the couch seat, table, chair etc., and the continuing to sleep, do anything else other than answering the phone.

Implied meaning ... the caller isn’t important enough for words to be spoken.

Took me years to figure this out.
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Re: aggression projection

Post by Arget » Fri Nov 08, 2019 7:15 am

Kung-fu Hillbilly wrote:
Fri Nov 08, 2019 2:59 am
The selfish gene rebels against anything that doesn't subscribe to or aid the orgasm.

This is not a pornographic issue.
FTFY
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