Dreams Predicting the Future???

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Dreams Predicting the Future???

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Please be kind as I am opening up my personal life to this forum. Thank you in advance for your thoughtfulness and kindness.

Ok = Corona virus + my separation from my Khmer wife + my normal neurosis have been peaking of late. So keep this notion in mind for what I share here:

My Khmer wife (she is in the process of immigrating to my country = we are just waiting now for our interview) always asks me about my dreams and often shares hers. This is something I have never given much attention to till I married my wife (is this a Khmer thing?).

So recently, I have been nearing the time I dive into the morass of traveling back to Cambodia during a once in a life time Pandemic. Stress levels are at an all time high. I had a rare dream the previous night that I actually remember: I woke up suddenly at the strike of 4 am (on my DAY OFF!) where I was dreaming that Donald J Trump was re-elected as president and he took an unusual change in behavior to personally target my struggles to see my wife = he made an order that I was not allowed to leave the USA to visit my wife. Then I woke up.

Ok - who hasn't had crazy stress dreams during these times right? The crazy part was that after waking up, I go into my routine to check my messages / email / text messages ect... low and behold I got both email and text up date that my EVA Airline flight had been in inexplicably been cancelled = no explanation why. I sorted things out by canceling my tickets = getting my $$moneys$$ back and re scheduled a flight for the same day but with a different flight number (Still Eva Air).

Long story Long = I shared the story with my wife (khmer) and she is convinced the dream was a premonition or a supernatural event predicting the future.

My Question is, can others share a similar experience of "superstitious" beliefs by their Khmer significant others and is this ingrained in their culture. I am trying to be a good and compassionate husband but am fighting against my logical, critical thinking skills of a trained scientist ingrained in Western culture.

Again, thank you for being considerate and kind as I am bearing my personal life and thought here. Be gentle.

Sincerely Rtrac!
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Dreams do not predict the future. Occasionally something that someone dreams does come to pass, and they may believe their dream predicted the future. But it is just coincidence. As there are many other times when what someone dreams, does not come to pass.
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Dreams are the brain’s way of putting together bits information unconsciously that have been put in front of it. They reveal truths and sometimes predictions of the future.

Just like seeing a person crossing in front of a speeding truck. Deduction is gruesome death. But dreams put together much more subtle clues that the waking mind would have never put together.

Then there are other kinds of dreams.

Lincoln dreamed that he died before his assassination.

And there’s Edgar Cayse, the psychic. Born with thr gift (or curse) of seeing the future.
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explorer wrote: Fri Aug 14, 2020 6:18 am Dreams do not predict the future. Occasionally something that someone dreams does come to pass, and they may believe their dream predicted the future. But it is just coincidence. As there are many other times when what someone dreams, does not come to pass.
That seems most likely but my wife differs... I am just trying to understand the Khmer mind frame / culture = looking for more insight = help me relate to Khmer and my wife and not just dismissive of their deep beliefs. Thank you for the feed back = it helps me immensely = Much appreciated!
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newkidontheblock wrote: Fri Aug 14, 2020 7:11 am Dreams are the brain’s way of putting together bits information unconsciously that have been put in front of it. They reveal truths and sometimes predictions of the future.

Just like seeing a person crossing in front of a speeding truck. Deduction is gruesome death. But dreams put together much more subtle clues that the waking mind would have never put together.

Then there are other kinds of dreams.

Lincoln dreamed that he died before his assassination.

And there’s Edgar Cayse, the psychic. Born with thr gift (or curse) of seeing the future.
Agreed, the insight into the future would be a curse NOT A BLESSING. Thank you sir!
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explorer wrote: Fri Aug 14, 2020 6:18 am Dreams do not predict the future. Occasionally something that someone dreams does come to pass, and they may believe their dream predicted the future. But it is just coincidence. As there are many other times when what someone dreams, does not come to pass.
YES! I AGREE = my query is to see insight into the KHMER culture ... I think I am bumping up into a cultural difference = Much appreciated to see others insights. Thank you for your comments!
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Yes, it's a Khmer thing. I suggest just not sharing such dreams in the future, or explain to her that no, dreams don't fucking predict the future.

Don't worry, we've all been there before.l, it's quite common for them to associate dreams with the future. Then again, it's not just a Khmer thing, all humans have a weird fascination with dreams. Try telling a western woman you just had a dream about your ex and see what happens!

Once you're together again, I suggest explaining to her the extent of science's knowledge about dreams. They're still relatively mysterious, but there are several plausible hypotheses about why we get them. Might help a bit.
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What’s a standard dream?
According to the National Sleep Foundation, we typically dream about four to six times per night. There’s no way, you might be thinking, but that’s only because we forget more than 95 percent of all dreams.

Dreaming happens throughout the night, but our most vivid and often remembered dreams happen during rapid eye movement (REM) sleep.

A dream can be influenced by what we’re thinking about before we go to sleep, or what we’ve experienced in our waking day. Dreams can also bring to light what we’re avoiding thinking about or our anxieties.

According to research, 65 percent of the elements of dreams are associated with your experiences while awake.

If you’ve got job stress, your dreams might take place at work or involve your co-workers. If you just went on a date, your dream might be full of romance, or on the flip side, heartbreak, if you’re having anxiety about dating someone new.
https://www.healthline.com/health/types ... dard-dream


This may also be a helpful read
Ten superstitions Cambodians believe and maybe you don’t know

https://cambodia1.wordpress.com/2015/05 ... dont-know/
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Rtrac wrote: Fri Aug 14, 2020 7:24 am
explorer wrote: Fri Aug 14, 2020 6:18 am Dreams do not predict the future. Occasionally something that someone dreams does come to pass, and they may believe their dream predicted the future. But it is just coincidence. As there are many other times when what someone dreams, does not come to pass.
YES! I AGREE = my query is to see insight into the KHMER culture ... I think I am bumping up into a cultural difference = Much appreciated to see others insights. Thank you for your comments!
Many cultures, not just Khmer have weird feelings about dreams. As a Brit I remember reading my husbands tea leaves and he thought it was all rubbish, whereas I was convinced of my predictions which BTW did come to pass.
I also think we can manifest many of our desires.
Yr wife has her beliefs and culture. Listen and respects and find a happy medium. Im so excited for you both. Breath in and remain calm. The universe is delivering you a beautiful new life and wife.
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Teddy1 wrote:
Rtrac wrote: Fri Aug 14, 2020 7:24 am
explorer wrote: Fri Aug 14, 2020 6:18 am Dreams do not predict the future. Occasionally something that someone dreams does come to pass, and they may believe their dream predicted the future. But it is just coincidence. As there are many other times when what someone dreams, does not come to pass.
YES! I AGREE = my query is to see insight into the KHMER culture ... I think I am bumping up into a cultural difference = Much appreciated to see others insights. Thank you for your comments!
I was convinced of my predictions which BTW did come to pass.
They didn't come to pass, you associated something with it and hindsight is telling you you were right. That's the way the horoscope works. "You will have a pleasant surprise" can be easily associated to about 30 different things over a day by your brain. Unless you wrote down very specific outcomes and they all magically happened, well, newsflash: you can't predict the future...

But it's also true that a much larger percentage of women believe in stuff like this vs men. I'm guessing this is cross cultural as well, somewhat related to how our brains work/perceive things differently.
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