Ethics of checking up on a girl

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Ethics of checking up on a girl

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Hey guys where do you come down on this -- you think it's ok to check up on girls after you leave?

I just spent a couple weeks in Phnom Penh.. met a sweet girl at a bar who I just could not figure out. I've been around been with many bar girls but got an all together different vibe off this one. She talked in stories and I find it unlikely much of what she told me, but never did see anything untrue. I suspect I was just another customer/tourist and she'll be on to the next shortly. But I had some genuine feelings for the girl and *if*, she was being honest, then I would like to keep in contact and see her again. But I don't know what she's really about.

In a lot of ways I guess I would be relieved to find out she was playing games. Or maybe just want to check my own gut feelings.

I'm feeling apprehensive about having someone go check up on her stories - is she working at the bar, looking for customers etc. If she's back to work, no worries, it's her life, but I would like to know what's real.

Thoughts? Any ethical way of doing this? I'm not looking to make a fool of anyone or make problems for anyone.

Thanks guys
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Nope, I promise you she treats every other guy on the other side of the bar the exact same and probably has had better experiences with them.

Hate to be blunt but you're no one special to a bar girl, even if your dick is 20 inches long and your wallet can't even fit under a moto seat.
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Great, another Jenny thread :good:
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you entered in a hostess bar you already lost

forget it and hang out elsewhere if you look for a gf
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bargirls are deperate for customers for about 18 months, they of course want to stay a couple of weeks with a barang, as there is no-one in the bars !! I uselally check with the family, if you are introduced to the family and/or know her daughter(s), thats a good step in the right direction. Beware if in the family-house is living some 'nephew", who looks a bit odd and doesnt want to speak to you. He probably is just her husband and did longtime accept she makes money going with barangs !! ??
If not, just hit another-one on your next trip !!
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jjhend000 wrote: Tue Dec 21, 2021 6:28 pm Hey guys where do you come down on this -- you think it's ok to check up on girls after you leave?
Of course it's not ethical, but if you think it's worth it you can give it a try. While the cynical replies above are true in over 90% of the cases your gut feeling might be true, or your curiosity might be for real.

Just give it try. Preferably send someone able to speak the local lingo. Make clear what info you're after before committing to anything. It might be money badly spent but it maybe will answer some questions you have
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jjhend000 wrote: Tue Dec 21, 2021 6:28 pm Hey guys where do you come down on this -- you think it's ok to check up on girls after you leave?

I just spent a couple weeks in Phnom Penh.. met a sweet girl at a bar ...
Oh dear, or, how great threads start?
I've been around been with many bar girls
so .. we got 2 weeks.. and a serial John so far
She talked in stories and I find it unlikely much of what she told me, but never did see anything untrue.
Well, to be fair, you were only here for 2 weeks.
I suspect I was just another customer/tourist and she'll be on to the next shortly.
Yep. That you got right

*if*, she was being honest
Unlikely
I'm not looking to make a fool of anyone
Oh I think I know who's going to be made a fool of
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Bongmab69 wrote: Tue Dec 21, 2021 8:02 pm Beware if in the family-house is living some 'nephew", who looks a bit odd and doesnt want to speak to you. He probably is just her husband and did longtime accept she makes money going with barangs !! ??
Sounds like there's a story in there.
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ItWasntMe wrote: Tue Dec 21, 2021 7:01 pm Great, another Jenny thread :good:
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