Ethics of checking up on a girl

Ghostwriter · Post by **Ghostwriter** » Tue Dec 21, 2021 9:09 pm

Here's the only example of true romance between a hooker and an honest guy that i know about...Worth watching if you didn't. Great movie.

Good advices so far in this thread.
Oh yeah, Pretty Woman too.

Lost50 · Post by **Lost50** » Tue Dec 21, 2021 9:13 pm

Don't worry about a thing, she talked about you all last night, screamed your name while we were bonking then talked more about you as she served me breakfast in bed.
You struck gold dude but send her some funds, we're a bit tapped.

Chuck Borris · Post by **Chuck Borris** » Tue Dec 21, 2021 10:01 pm

Most of the expats here met their gf or wives in the library or in the opera so they cant help you with advice...

xandreu · Post by **xandreu** » Tue Dec 21, 2021 10:01 pm

It sounds to me like it doesn't matter what anyone on here posts - you've already fallen for her and as a result, you'll disregard all the negative opinions as 'but they don't understand the true situation' and regard the positive replies as permission to go ahead (which is what you're really seeking - permission. Not advice)

I'm not saying there's anything wrong with that. We've all been in love and we've all been in love with the 'wrong one' at some stage in our lives, and many of us have paid a heavy price for it. The heart can overpower the brain like an elephant stomping on a mouse given the right circumstances. It happens to the best of us.

I'm not going to give you any advice for those very reasons. But I have made this post just to point out that, while those of you who are discouraging him (and occasionally mocking him) for his plight, your advice may be sound, but at least show some empathy to the guy.

We can all relate, in some way, to his predicament, be it bargirls, regular girls, guys, or whatever...

nerdlinger · Post by **nerdlinger** » Tue Dec 21, 2021 11:42 pm

Fun fact, the original script for Pretty Woman ended with Richard Gere kicking her out the car and throwing the $3000 at her, which she uses to go away on a bus trip with her friend; an experience which she appears to feel hollow about.

During shooting Gere and Roberts turned out to have such good chemistry that the producer rewrote the ending so that the two end up together.

Ghostwriter · Post by **Ghostwriter** » Tue Dec 21, 2021 11:50 pm

xandreu wrote: ↑Tue Dec 21, 2021 10:01 pm We can all relate, in some way, to his predicament, be it bargirls, regular girls, guys, or whatever...

We all had a broken heart in asia at some point for sure, so, congratulations on your feelings, that's when we feel alive.
As for me it was 2 regular girls though....students.
The professional ones, that's very potentially another level of pain.

Also, this, for fun

Sirhaden1 · Post by **Sirhaden1** » Wed Dec 22, 2021 12:55 am

jjhend000 wrote: ↑Tue Dec 21, 2021 6:28 pm Hey guys where do you come down on this -- you think it's ok to check up on girls after you leave?

I just spent a couple weeks in Phnom Penh.. met a sweet girl at a bar who I just could not figure out. I've been around been with many bar girls but got an all together different vibe off this one. She talked in stories and I find it unlikely much of what she told me, but never did see anything untrue. I suspect I was just another customer/tourist and she'll be on to the next shortly. But I had some genuine feelings for the girl and *if*, she was being honest, then I would like to keep in contact and see her again. But I don't know what she's really about.

In a lot of ways I guess I would be relieved to find out she was playing games. Or maybe just want to check my own gut feelings.

I'm feeling apprehensive about having someone go check up on her stories - is she working at the bar, looking for customers etc. If she's back to work, no worries, it's her life, but I would like to know what's real.

Thoughts? Any ethical way of doing this? I'm not looking to make a fool of anyone or make problems for anyone.

Thanks guys

She will have some hairy back yank riding her right now lol

nerdlinger · Post by **nerdlinger** » Wed Dec 22, 2021 1:06 am

Sirhaden1 wrote: ↑Wed Dec 22, 2021 12:55 am She will have some hairy back yank riding her right now lol

Hey now! You don’t know that for a fact.

He could be a hairy back Russian.

GMJS-CEO · Post by **GMJS-CEO** » Wed Dec 22, 2021 1:09 am

Congrats OP on meeting your special lady. If you want to keep the relationship going and keep her loyal, your best bet is to send money on a regular basis. That will also encourage her to stay out of the bars. If you do not send money, how will she support herself without going back into the hostess life? You should make the occasional trip back to get to know her more and determine if marriage is in order.

You never know unless you go for it. Follow your heart and send money ASAP.

phuketrichard · Post by **phuketrichard** » Wed Dec 22, 2021 8:31 am

my advice for what its worth:
go for it, communicate with her but dont believe ur the only one on her contact list and when the requests for $$ start coming in......
BUT if u already dont trust her and want someone to check on her..... forget it, if there is no trust, there can be no relationship.

as to the above advice, ( i hope it was sarcastic) that if u send her $$ she will stay out of the bar BS!!!! why settle for one guy sending $$ when u can have 2, 3 ++++ LOL
wife has 2 sisters both stringing along multiple BF's NOT in country for cash donations every month for the past 2 years

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