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explorer wrote: Sat Oct 05, 2019 7:57 pm
tireswang wrote: Sat Oct 05, 2019 10:27 am chances are you will have more choices if ya look in the Philippines.
Only if you don't speak Khmer. There are thousands of nice girls in Cambodia. Of these, there are many that speak English that most foreigners don't meet because they assume they cant speak English. Those that don't speak English can learn.
Who can learn to speak English? Foreigners or Khmers or both?
Again, there are 8.5 million females in Cambodia and yet only thousands of nice girls? And yes not speaking Khmer will not affect your opportunities to meet nice girls in the Philippines, there and about 179 other countries in the world. Not only that, there are 179 other countries where people can learn English. Where do you get these profound thoughts from?
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This is what it takes to make a good wife.

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explorer wrote: Sat Oct 05, 2019 9:10 am Dont get a girlfriend or boyfriend and try to change them. If a person is not someone you are happy with, find someone else.

One of the downsides of Cambodian culture is the lack of dating, or spending time with each other before marriage, where you can get to know each other well, and discuss what is important to each of you.

For example, one of the things I would discuss is, lets save money together. It should not be a case of I give and she takes forever.
That tradition was certainly the case with Mrs Cargo's brother. Late 20s living in PP and his mother in the province wanted him married off but had an alterior motive to hitch him up so that she would live with them and the girl could take care of her in her old age. So she found him a 'good' girl from the province. 17 yr old and original. Never left the house without the family.

There was no dating..the best he could do was go and visit her at her house and chat with her with the family present.

Anyway, they got married and its been a total disaster since. First of all, the girl didn't like living in PP where her husband worked (she'd never been to PP before). Then Mrs Cargo's mother moved in with them. Then the girl got pregnant and said she didn't want to take care of the mother-in-law anymore.

And the latest now is: she wants to move back with her family in the province to have the baby.......and, she wants a divorce..
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How well do Cambodian girls complain to Thais? Here the girl is viewed as having hit the jackpot and you become the family ATM. I've known 2 punters who were introduced to the wife's "brother" only to later learn he was her Thai husband.

Are they as evil and are the families as bad? I realize we're speaking in generalizations and there will be exceptions to any norm in both countries.
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That's compare not complain, sorry I can't find edit.
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It the same right throughout SEA, if your paying an ex bar girl a monthly income to be the full time live in then you have to be willing to turn a blind eye to the possibility of other men in her life. just make sure you get what you pay for.

If you found a nice day to day girl and she is not dependent on your coin then I think its safe to say she is all clear of the side dick no matter if she is a single mother or not.
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Robins wrote: Mon Jun 15, 2020 10:27 am How well do Cambodian girls complain to Thais? Here the girl is viewed as having hit the jackpot and you become the family ATM. I've known 2 punters who were introduced to the wife's "brother" only to later learn he was her Thai husband.

Are they as evil and are the families as bad? I realize we're speaking in generalizations and there will be exceptions to any norm in both countries.
What do you expect when you get involved in hookers? Don't generalize about a whole country based on your extremely limited experience with women you pay for intimacy with.
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John Bingham wrote: Mon Jun 15, 2020 11:32 amwomen you pay for intimacy with.
In my experience, the man always pays for it one way or another.
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Big Daikon wrote: Mon Jun 15, 2020 11:59 am
John Bingham wrote: Mon Jun 15, 2020 11:32 amwomen you pay for intimacy with.
In my experience, the man always pays for it one way or another.
Sure, I expected that cliched response.
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Big Daikon wrote: Mon Jun 15, 2020 11:59 am
John Bingham wrote: Mon Jun 15, 2020 11:32 amwomen you pay for intimacy with.
In my experience, the man always pays for it one way or another.

Can't live with em, can't live without em!

etc

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