Why don't people say goodbye?

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Re: Why don't people say goodbye?

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rozzieoz wrote: Wed May 24, 2017 6:41 pm
StroppyChops wrote:
kiwiincambodia wrote: Wed May 24, 2017 5:05 pm If you say goodbye people always expect you to stay for "just one more" which turns into several.
They also expect you to pay your end of the tab...
We are usually the ones paying so that's not an issue.


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Same here.....
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Oh, sorry, I forgot the emoji...

They also expect you to pay your end of the tab... :lol:
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Last night we had dinner at a friend's place and our host went to bed without saying goodbye. After about half an hour we asked where he was and sure enough, he was asleep.


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Re: Why don't people say goodbye?

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Never experienced it.

Inviting someone over then just going to bed without a word is straight up rude, unless you were all 10 beers in and they simply collapsed.
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Re: Why don't people say goodbye?

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I've never experienced this here by Khmers, but I used to do it a the time back home. Was later told it's an "Irish Exit". If it's a big party or something, I cant be bothered to go catch everyone in the crowd and say bye, bye, bye. Just slip out... Here if I'm out with a few friends then of course I'll say goodbye. I'm talking house parties back home and all that.
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Re: Why don't people say goodbye?

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rozzieoz wrote: Wed May 24, 2017 10:30 pm Last night we had dinner at a friend's place and our host went to bed without saying goodbye. After about half an hour we asked where he was and sure enough, he was asleep.


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Well thats worse than not being invited to the dinner in the first place.
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When I first arrived in Cambodia I got told not to be surprised if people walked off without saying goodbye and that we should/could do likewise.

Weddings and ceremonies, don't most people just eat and run ? The most important bit is the greeting (and envelope) ?
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Anchor Moy wrote: Thu May 25, 2017 3:01 pm When I first arrived in Cambodia I got told not to be surprised if people walked off without saying goodbye and that we should/could do likewise.

Weddings and ceremonies, don't most people just eat and run ? The most important bit is the greeting (and envelope) ?
Weddings don't count! You're expected to get up and leave - having left the envelope, of course - so the next 10 payers can use the table.
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Re: Why don't people say goodbye?

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rozzieoz wrote: Wed May 24, 2017 3:00 pm Is it just us or have others experienced this?

We will be out with people and notice that someone has left. We assume they've gone to the loo or to make a phone call - but after half an hour or so you realise they've actually left without saying goodbye.

All our friends have done it at one time or more, so we assume it's another of those "Khmer things" or are our friends just particularly rude?

If you did this in Australia you wouldn't get invited back!



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there is some truth behind this

during phone conversations its not uncommon for khmers to just put the phone down when the conversation is finished without saying goodbye,
its something which ive witnessed many times and i know to be true, when the conversation is over they just hang up,

not really sure how common it is for khmers to leave without saying good bye though, its something i have noticed in the past, but not really enough times for me to see a regular pattern, will be something i will keep my eye out on in future, im someone who likes to say goodbye when leaving or if i see someone leaving so ive not really noticed so much, i know when khmer males get a little too drunk they will often sneak off without saying goodbye, but thats only really the times i notice it the most
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After all these many many years I still cannot get over one of my best friends leaving without saying good-bye. ,,,,, RIP
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Like the spoilt child she is, she will not be happy till she destroys herself from within and breaks your heart.
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