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hayleyskye.hayz
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Sore,no the kids mum is aNZer. And I meant the everyone says this is what cambo mums are like about the MIL.That's in regards to things like being outright rude to me etc
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hayleyskye.hayz wrote:Sore,no the kids mum is aNZer. And I meant the everyone says this is what cambo mums are like about the MIL.That's in regards to things like being outright rude to me etc
Thanks for clarifying.

Just to be pedantic. Why would the MIL be like that if she isn’t with the ex?

I would say just give them space and leave them be. It may not be ideal but why not just let your husband spend time with his mother without you around. It may help with the tension and give the MIL what she wants. After some time start visiting together and then hopefully things will be better.
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I suggest you clarify the situation.

Posting on Cambodian forums gives people the impression you are talking about Cambodians.

Are any of the people Cambodian?

In a different situation. you will get different answers.
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explorer wrote: Tue Jul 31, 2018 12:23 pm I suggest you clarify the situation.

Posting on Cambodian forums gives people the impression you are talking about Cambodians.

Are any of the people Cambodian?

In a different situation. you will get different answers.
Mother in law is Cambodian. They're all in NZ.
kiwiincambodia wrote: Tue Jul 31, 2018 12:16 pm
hayleyskye.hayz wrote:Sore,no the kids mum is aNZer. And I meant the everyone says this is what cambo mums are like about the MIL.That's in regards to things like being outright rude to me etc
Thanks for clarifying.

Just to be pedantic. Why would the MIL be like that if she isn’t with the ex?

I would say just give them space and leave them be. It may not be ideal but why not just let your husband spend time with his mother without you around. It may help with the tension and give the MIL what she wants. After some time start visiting together and then hopefully things will be better.
My mother in law is not as you describe, and I've never heard Cambodian mothers in law being described that way.


My advice:

- Don't visit when the other woman is around - yes she works for them, but surely she doesn't live with them? Visit them on the weekends, and only meet on neutral ground - ie. not her house, or any place the other woman might be.

- Take the MIL to the buddhist wat on Pchum Ben.

- Ask her how to make somlor m'chou.

- Learn Khmer (if you don't already know it) and speak Khmer with her.

- Have a kid yourselves (if you don't already have any) so her descendants are not only the other woman's. If her loyalty is with the other woman, it's probably got a lot to do with her (only?) grand kids being the other woman's.
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I imagine both the ex and the mother in law would have somewhat different takes on this situation. How long was your husband with the other woman and how many children are we talking about? Like grannies everywhere Cambodians dote on their grandchildren, any attempt to push the kids mother out is liable to be a disaster for you. :hattip:
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