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MikeD wrote: Sat May 02, 2020 6:28 pm The number one inconvenience is the language barrier. Past that, the Khmers , Thais, Laotians, etc., are generally kind and friendly to other people as long as they are consistently RESPECTFUL. This is the notion in a Buddhist society. I say this because they understand aspects of cultural differences there, like you can "fuck" or "shit". However, once in a country other than his own, one should simply be kind, friendly and law abiding. This goes a long way in terms of making friends and staying safe.
one should also try to learn the national language, that goes a lot further in terms of being respectful and making friends as well as enhancing your experience of the country.
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angkorjohn2 wrote: Sun May 03, 2020 5:20 pm
MikeD wrote: Sat May 02, 2020 6:28 pm The number one inconvenience is the language barrier. Past that, the Khmers , Thais, Laotians, etc., are generally kind and friendly to other people as long as they are consistently RESPECTFUL. This is the notion in a Buddhist society. I say this because they understand aspects of cultural differences there, like you can "fuck" or "shit". However, once in a country other than his own, one should simply be kind, friendly and law abiding. This goes a long way in terms of making friends and staying safe.
one should also try to learn the national language, that goes a lot further in terms of being respectful and making friends as well as enhancing your experience of the country.
Thanks for echoeing what i said. Excuse my spelling.
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MikeD wrote: Mon May 04, 2020 12:45 am
angkorjohn2 wrote: Sun May 03, 2020 5:20 pm
MikeD wrote: Sat May 02, 2020 6:28 pm The number one inconvenience is the language barrier. Past that, the Khmers , Thais, Laotians, etc., are generally kind and friendly to other people as long as they are consistently RESPECTFUL. This is the notion in a Buddhist society. I say this because they understand aspects of cultural differences there, like you can "fuck" or "shit". However, once in a country other than his own, one should simply be kind, friendly and law abiding. This goes a long way in terms of making friends and staying safe.
one should also try to learn the national language, that goes a lot further in terms of being respectful and making friends as well as enhancing your experience of the country.
Thanks for echoeing what i said. Excuse my spelling.
agree.. funny story.. since many khmer / expat relationships are transactional... a good friend of mine-- a local.. we would go to supermarket at times together.. hang out..i would go to his family house to eat etc..anyway he told me that a few people asked if we were gay..haaa or if i was gay.. I think they couldn't understand what the relationship was... like why these 2 guys hanging out... there gotta be something..lol..

also related to what both you guys said--top of my mind cause just saw the movie Saint Jack.. part of the review said this

What enables such observations to be made is the compromising position of Jack Flowers (and, to an extent, Theroux himself) as the white man who happens to be living (and not vacationing) amongst locals; the white man who, at once, employs and is employed by locals and who doesn’t spend most of his time with other white folk in a gated compound in the outskirts of the city.
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BklynBoy wrote: Mon May 04, 2020 12:52 am
MikeD wrote: Mon May 04, 2020 12:45 am
angkorjohn2 wrote: Sun May 03, 2020 5:20 pm
MikeD wrote: Sat May 02, 2020 6:28 pm The number one inconvenience is the language barrier. Past that, the Khmers , Thais, Laotians, etc., are generally kind and friendly to other people as long as they are consistently RESPECTFUL. This is the notion in a Buddhist society. I say this because they understand aspects of cultural differences there, like you can "fuck" or "shit". However, once in a country other than his own, one should simply be kind, friendly and law abiding. This goes a long way in terms of making friends and staying safe.
one should also try to learn the national language, that goes a lot further in terms of being respectful and making friends as well as enhancing your experience of the country.
Thanks for echoeing what i said. Excuse my spelling.
agree.. funny story.. since many khmer / expat relationships are transactional... a good friend of mine-- a local.. we would go to supermarket at times together.. hang out..i would go to his family house to eat etc..anyway he told me that a few people asked if we were gay..haaa or if i was gay.. I think they couldn't understand what the relationship was... like why these 2 guys hanging out... there gotta be something..lol..

also related to what both you guys said--top of my mind cause just saw the movie Saint Jack.. part of the review said this

What enables such observations to be made is the compromising position of Jack Flowers (and, to an extent, Theroux himself) as the white man who happens to be living (and not vacationing) amongst locals; the white man who, at once, employs and is employed by locals and who doesn’t spend most of his time with other white folk in a gated compound in the outskirts of the city.
Well, they have the stereotypical view that a white boy from Brooklyn is in Cambodia for the usual stuff including the bar scene and bargirls. They simply are surprised you share such a "transactional" relationahip with a local guy. You might want to clarify what that means. However, most people dont even care or ask about who you choose to hang out with unless you are making a big scene.
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MikeD wrote: Mon May 04, 2020 1:26 am
BklynBoy wrote: Mon May 04, 2020 12:52 am
MikeD wrote: Mon May 04, 2020 12:45 am
angkorjohn2 wrote: Sun May 03, 2020 5:20 pm
MikeD wrote: Sat May 02, 2020 6:28 pm The number one inconvenience is the language barrier. Past that, the Khmers , Thais, Laotians, etc., are generally kind and friendly to other people as long as they are consistently RESPECTFUL. This is the notion in a Buddhist society. I say this because they understand aspects of cultural differences there, like you can "fuck" or "shit". However, once in a country other than his own, one should simply be kind, friendly and law abiding. This goes a long way in terms of making friends and staying safe.
one should also try to learn the national language, that goes a lot further in terms of being respectful and making friends as well as enhancing your experience of the country.
Thanks for echoeing what i said. Excuse my spelling.
agree.. funny story.. since many khmer / expat relationships are transactional... a good friend of mine-- a local.. we would go to supermarket at times together.. hang out..i would go to his family house to eat etc..anyway he told me that a few people asked if we were gay..haaa or if i was gay.. I think they couldn't understand what the relationship was... like why these 2 guys hanging out... there gotta be something..lol..

also related to what both you guys said--top of my mind cause just saw the movie Saint Jack.. part of the review said this

What enables such observations to be made is the compromising position of Jack Flowers (and, to an extent, Theroux himself) as the white man who happens to be living (and not vacationing) amongst locals; the white man who, at once, employs and is employed by locals and who doesn’t spend most of his time with other white folk in a gated compound in the outskirts of the city.
Well, they have the stereotypical view that a white boy from Brooklyn is in Cambodia for the usual stuff including the bar scene and bargirls. They simply are surprised you share such a "transactional" relationahip with a local guy. You might want to clarify what that means. However, most people dont even care or ask about who you choose to hang out with unless you are making a big scene.
lol.. of course i do the usual stuff but the more i go, the less i find myself doing that. but nothing wrong w it. I dont share a transactional relationship with my friend..lol wtf you say that for? i said many relationships are transactional... aint nothing going on like that ... did you misread or did i not explain it well? Maybe should of included the people who asked bout the gay thing were people who didnt know us well...unsure if that clears anything up or makes a difference
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Generally I have always thought people were very nice and very tolerant. But there is an element in their mentality that you are really different from them and a sort of distant "other".

When you know the language other things appear. Like the other day a woman sitting right next to me starts asking other people about me, when she could have just asked me directly herself. Or people not grasping the fact that you speak Khmer when you actually are speaking directly to them. But its not really intentional.
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BklynBoy wrote: Mon May 04, 2020 1:40 amlol.. of course i do the usual stuff but the more i go, the less i find myself doing that. but nothing wrong w it. I dont share a transactional relationship with my friend..lol wtf you say that for? i said many relationships are transactional... aint nothing going on like that ... did you misread or did i not explain it well? Maybe should of included the people who asked bout the gay thing were people who didnt know us well...unsure if that clears anything up or makes a difference
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I get treated extremely well and absolutely love socializing with Khmer, it’s always so much fun to party with locals.
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very friendly, hospitable people

some europeans are very unfriendly
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daeum_tnaot wrote: Mon May 04, 2020 8:53 am Or people not grasping the fact that you speak Khmer when you actually are speaking directly to them. But its not really intentional.
This happened to me repeatedly in my first town in Japan. It is quite surreal and messes with your head.

I learned to roll with it. Just repeat yourself with a smile.
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