armchairlawyer wrote: ↑Sun Aug 02, 2020 2:12 pm

armchairlawyer wrote: ↑Sun Aug 02, 2020 11:01 am
If it's any consolation. many men here fcuk it up in their relationships with women. They choose ones that are too young, too pretty, or they get jealous, or they drink too much, or they butterfly too much, or fail to learn any Khmer, or even speak English in a Khmer way, or they never smile, or keep crossing their arms, or they are too boring, or they don't have enough money, or they're too short or their nose is too small (just joking about the last two). Or, they keep behaving in the cowed way that they adopted in their relationship with a western woman, that doesn't work well here, women think it's pathetic. Or they do the opposite and get too macho.

I'd add to that list, men who choose Khmer women with a gambling problem, unstable personalities and ones too beholden to their families.

I stand corrected and humbly ask for yr forgivness for previous comments (which came from a place of emotional anger, over my issues with aging men and relationships)
You clearly know what yr talking about. Theres way more to a successful relationship that just sex.
Well done. Your eyes are open.

armchairlawyer wrote: ↑Sun Aug 02, 2020 4:54 pm I have never known a good relationship happen between a barang and a girl under 25.

The thing about the families is that if she is beholden to hers, it only takes one for a problem to develop. And if the family is large, what are the odds of all of them being good?

The primary issue is often not the age, but the whole way they go about it.

There are a lot of different individuals, and they are not all the same.

There are men who come from a Western country, and no Woman has been interested in them for a long time. They think, if only a girl in Asia likes them. Then they often start a relationship with the first girl they meet.

There are girls on the prowl for men to scam. They keep their eyes open for any new men that come to Cambodia. When they see one, they just happen to go to a place where it is very easy for him to meet her. For example, if he goes to a shop, they go to the same shop. They look for any situation to start a conversation.

The man thinks, this girl likes me. He thinks he has been lucky. The girl thinks, this man is gullible, I will get a lot of money from him.

It is amazing what this type of girl will tell you if you become friends with them. They sometimes tell you straight, that is what they are doing.

Sometime down the track, when the money stops, the girl breaks up with him.

But if a man was to not rush in, but meet a lot of girls. Meet University students, and girls who have good jobs. Then when he likes one, still not rush in, but spend time getting to know her. Also get to know the family. After knowing her for a long time, then start thinking about a relationship. Have a relationship where she has her own job, and income. Even with girls under 25, the success rate would be much higher.

Umm... isn’t choice a 2 way street? If it’s all about the man choosing the girl, then it’s already an uneven relationship. The girl also needs to freely choose the man. Then love has a chance. Same with relations between the girl’s (or guy’s) family. Of course without daily nurturing from both, love eventually withers and dies.

Viagra can fix the mechanical part if there’s some medical reason for it not to work. But too much viagra can kill it (the member dies from lack of blood flow). Unfortunately viagra can’t fit all the other reasons.

Just my thoughts.