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Re: Ex daughters wedding

Post by Kammekor » Sat Jan 11, 2020 6:41 pm

Avoiding the ex is a good idea, run.

But this might be about a hardly grown up girl who Maybe has been around the OP from the age of 11 onward.

Might be worth giving a second thought OP. Richard’s idea about attending with present, without wallet is worth more thoughts than the picture an video in the posts above.
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Re: Ex daughters wedding

Post by Brody » Sat Jan 11, 2020 6:59 pm

Kammekor wrote:
Sat Jan 11, 2020 6:41 pm
Aattending with present
Present? The only thing Khmers want to see at a wedding is the invitation envelope handed over, stuffed with cash.
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Re: Ex daughters wedding

Post by fax » Sat Jan 11, 2020 7:04 pm

If you turn up you are giving her false hope by signaling that you are interested in being in her life. You are not so don’t act like you are. Don’t go, better yet block them to prevent further contact.
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Re: Ex daughters wedding

Post by Kammekor » Sat Jan 11, 2020 7:07 pm

Brody wrote:
Sat Jan 11, 2020 6:59 pm
Kammekor wrote:
Sat Jan 11, 2020 6:41 pm
Aattending with present
Present? The only thing Khmers want to see at a wedding is the invitation envelope handed over, stuffed with cash.
Maybe, just maybe, this girl might have picked up different ideas while being around the OP.
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Re: Ex daughters wedding

Post by Brody » Sat Jan 11, 2020 7:19 pm

Kammekor wrote:
Sat Jan 11, 2020 7:07 pm
Brody wrote:
Sat Jan 11, 2020 6:59 pm
Kammekor wrote:
Sat Jan 11, 2020 6:41 pm
Aattending with present
Present? The only thing Khmers want to see at a wedding is the invitation envelope handed over, stuffed with cash.
Maybe, just maybe, this girl might have picked up different ideas while being around the OP.

True. I'm being overly cynical as usual. I guess it all depends on how acrimonious his relationship was with the mother at the end.
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Re: Ex daughters wedding

Post by fax » Sat Jan 11, 2020 7:23 pm

Kammekor wrote:
Sat Jan 11, 2020 7:07 pm
Maybe, just maybe, this girl might have picked up different ideas while being around the OP.
Maybe the girl is a tool used by the mother to get what she wants, like they often do.
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Re: Ex daughters wedding

Post by Anchor Moy » Sat Jan 11, 2020 7:58 pm

Lol. Comments are raining down from the truly happily married posters here. :OD:

@OP .I don't have much to add, but the comments below are worth considering if this girl was like a daughter to you.

phuketrichard wrote:
Sat Jan 11, 2020 5:58 pm
Kammekor wrote:
Sat Jan 11, 2020 5:19 pm
So you started your relationship with your ex when the girl was 11. Broke up when she was 17. Right?

So you saw her every day, kind of brought her up as well, from the age of 11 till the age of 17. Right?

The years of adolescence are very important for a person, Maybe you played a bigger role than you expected in her life?
agree, how close were you?
Did she call you dad?
Do you consider her ur daughter?

if so, by all means go, bring a gift but leave ur wallet at home
doesn't matter who asked you to attend
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Re: Ex daughters wedding

Post by phuketrichard » Sat Jan 11, 2020 8:02 pm

fax wrote:
Sat Jan 11, 2020 7:04 pm
If you turn up you are giving her false hope by signaling that you are interested in being in her life. You are not so don’t act like you are. Don’t go, better yet block them to prevent further contact.
WTF>>>
why not be involved in ur daughters life,? just cause you an the ex fell out is no reason to abandon ur kid you raised for years.
:please:

some people on here i am amazed at how they think
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Re: Ex daughters wedding

Post by fax » Sat Jan 11, 2020 8:41 pm

phuketrichard wrote:
Sat Jan 11, 2020 8:02 pm
WTF>>>
why not be involved in ur daughters life,? just cause you an the ex fell out is no reason to abandon ur kid you raised for years.
:please:

some people on here i am amazed at how they think
It’s not his daughter. It is his ex girlfriend’s daughter from an earlier relationship with somebody else, alas his ex stepdaughter at most. The girl was 11 when he started dating her mother.

Of course he should be involved in his kid’s life. This is not his kid.
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Re: Ex daughters wedding

Post by IraHayes » Sat Jan 11, 2020 8:48 pm

phuketrichard wrote:
Sat Jan 11, 2020 8:02 pm
fax wrote:
Sat Jan 11, 2020 7:04 pm
If you turn up you are giving her false hope by signaling that you are interested in being in her life. You are not so don’t act like you are. Don’t go, better yet block them to prevent further contact.
WTF>>>
why not be involved in ur daughters life,? just cause you an the ex fell out is no reason to abandon ur kid you raised for years.
:please:

some people on here i am amazed at how they think
Nd their level of reading comprehension amazes me too..

Let’s see.
1. It’s not his daughter. He met the mother when the daughter was 11
2. The spilt was absolute with no further contact by either side for a year.
3. Faxs’ point was that the OP has no intention of being a part of the girls life in the future so why give her the impression he cared.

Richards reply reads like the OP abandoned the mother of “his” child which is clearly not the case. No info has been provided on the closeness of the step daughter relationship but I am guessing it wasn’t that close and would certainly have been soured by the scorned ex wife. It’s women’s only recourse in a confrontation. Men sort it out with physical violence while women up use malicious gossip and character assassination to achieve their goals. So yeah, what relationship the op had with the girl is now dust.
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