prahkeitouj wrote:

Anchor Moy wrote:

Rutiger wrote:

prahkeitouj wrote: don't you think before you get married, you need be boyfriend and girlfriend first ?

I do think that, yes, but dating is part of my culture and even living together is now socially acceptable. I thought the boyfriend/girlfriend thing before marriage was still not acceptable in Khmer culture. I thought a semi-arranged marriages were still the norm for "good" girls in Cambodia.

By the way. the NO votes now have it 9 to 6.

Lol. Funny thread - some of the western men present here actually seem a lot more socially conservative than Little Salary.

And I think LS should know a bit about what is acceptable in Khmer culture or not. Unexpectedly, (for a Khmer ), she is open-minded, non-judgmental and progressive. But don't let that get in the way of the stereotypes. Wake up, times (and Cambodians) are changing.

First round : Kickass Khmer lady, 1 - Morals advisor to Khmer women since 2016, 0.

I'm not really open-minded.. I just a kind of a norm breaker. Some norms can't let women join the society equally. Were we born to satisfy everyone? If you don't have a boyfriend you might be a picky girl or no one wants you. If you always walk with a girl, you might be a lesbian. If you walk alone, you are stupid! If you have a boyfriend, you might lose your virginity with your boyfriend. If you engage, they will wait to see if you both get married or not? If you get married, they will ask you when do you have a kid? If you don't have kid, they will wonder why? If you are divorced , they will think ..... Whatever you do, you are always wrong . but those people don't really care what talk about us and our lives. Just be yourself! Be reasonable to find your real happiness. Don't be afraid of change. Change isn't bad, but you have to make sure you change from bad to good, from good to be better..!

Samouth wrote:

prahkeitouj wrote:

Anchor Moy wrote:

Rutiger wrote:

prahkeitouj wrote: don't you think before you get married, you need be boyfriend and girlfriend first ?

I do think that, yes, but dating is part of my culture and even living together is now socially acceptable. I thought the boyfriend/girlfriend thing before marriage was still not acceptable in Khmer culture. I thought a semi-arranged marriages were still the norm for "good" girls in Cambodia.

By the way. the NO votes now have it 9 to 6.

Lol. Funny thread - some of the western men present here actually seem a lot more socially conservative than Little Salary.

And I think LS should know a bit about what is acceptable in Khmer culture or not. Unexpectedly, (for a Khmer ), she is open-minded, non-judgmental and progressive. But don't let that get in the way of the stereotypes. Wake up, times (and Cambodians) are changing.

First round : Kickass Khmer lady, 1 - Morals advisor to Khmer women since 2016, 0.

I'm not really open-minded.. I just a kind of a norm breaker. Some norms can't let women join the society equally. Were we born to satisfy everyone? If you don't have a boyfriend you might be a picky girl or no one wants you. If you always walk with a girl, you might be a lesbian. If you walk alone, you are stupid! If you have a boyfriend, you might lose your virginity with your boyfriend. If you engage, they will wait to see if you both get married or not? If you get married, they will ask you when do you have a kid? If you don't have kid, they will wonder why? If you are divorced , they will think ..... Whatever you do, you are always wrong . but those people don't really care what talk about us and our lives. Just be yourself! Be reasonable to find your real happiness. Don't be afraid of change. Change isn't bad, but you have to make sure you change from bad to good, from good to be better..!

Great post little salary.

Duncan wrote: Please help me solve my problem relationship with my sister-in-law.

nemo wrote:I have no idea of the veracity of this, but several informants have said to me that in the recent past it was not uncommon to encounter men in the provinces with more than one wife in the same compound.

One fellow told me it is quite common today in some places.

I assumed he was trying to tell a tall tale to a foreigner.

Rutiger wrote:

prahkeitouj wrote:Maybe being girlfriend and boyfriend in your country has different meaning from local thought.

Probably. After a certain age, and after some time together, it is assumed in most modern Western cultures that boyfriend and girlfriend are having sex. This is different in Cambodia still?

What, to you, makes a guy your boyfriend as opposed to just a close male friend?

prahkeitouj wrote:

Rutiger wrote:

prahkeitouj wrote:Maybe being girlfriend and boyfriend in your country has different meaning from local thought.

Probably. After a certain age, and after some time together, it is assumed in most modern Western cultures that boyfriend and girlfriend are having sex. This is different in Cambodia still?

What, to you, makes a guy your boyfriend as opposed to just a close male friend?

I think we have different concept. Most of Cambodians call each other bf and gf when they feel in love each other, chat and go out together.. etc
Some people they just know each other via calling( some feel in love without seeing each other face before we have facebook).