Fridaywithmateo wrote: ↑Thu Jan 04, 2024 8:52 am

ItWasntMe wrote: ↑Thu Jan 04, 2024 6:16 am

Fridaywithmateo wrote: ↑Wed Jan 03, 2024 5:48 pm

ItWasntMe wrote: ↑Wed Jan 03, 2024 5:34 pm I dunno, doing quite well without children and have no plans to change that.

Shoulda said "most men" ... I am not qualified to know what women want, so I kept it specific to men. @RightSaidFred

Oh, so you believe all men wants children, but possibly not all women?

That makes sense, as a man you probably only know what all other men thinks and wants.

But as a military man, should you not be able to tap into anyone's brain? Man, woman or animal alike?

Also, I'm pretty sure that I'm not a woman, although it's hard to be 100% sure of anything these days with fake news and weird pronouns.

Men are from Mars ... Women are from Venus ... I stopped trying to figure out the goings on in the brains of women long ago, and have no plans to resume trying. That's a fool's game. But the average Joe worldwide, I think I understand well enough to say what I said in my OP ... most not "all" ... in the sense that if you surveyed every swingin' dick on the planet, I'd lay money on those five as the top five answers on the board. But, alas, I have been wrong before and I will be wrong again. But that's my belief. And it speaks more deeply to the point that despite differences of culture, ethnics, education, language, etc, etc ... on a basic level we men are all more similar than not.

Sure, it's human nature to eat, sleep and make babies. But we're not perfect and not all people are going to be wired the same whether man or woman.

And these days a fair amount of people choose not to have children for a variety of reason.

Buddha did not look for happines, bliss is craving nothing, including happiness?

But sure, most men like big tits, I have the statistics to prove it. However, you initiated the list with "Every man wants:", that's a bit different.

Money
Fame
Power

What we want is also different from what we need.

newkidontheblock wrote: ↑Thu Jan 04, 2024 7:46 pm

ItWasntMe wrote:Money
Fame
Power

What we want is also different from what we need.

I want a peaceful simple life. Thank god Missus shares these same values.

For those that crave power and fame, there’s never enough. It can destroy families. The wife wants more, the husband says enough. She wants to divorce him just on that alone.

What if you had two buttons, press one for money, fame and power or, press the other for nothing.. ?

Isn't "not wanting" the above just another way of saying one has given up on trying to achieve it?

pissontheroof wrote: ↑Thu Jan 04, 2024 7:28 am

Freightdog wrote: ↑Wed Jan 03, 2024 11:24 pm

pissontheroof wrote: ↑Wed Jan 03, 2024 8:59 pm
so a bit useless to even try the " report of birth abroad " , no survivor benefit there
.. unless i could do it with just a DNA test . but whats the point ?

Would it not be worthwhile at least giving him that possible option for his own future? Register the birth, give him the future choice.

Yes , will do everything I can for him . For his god given right .
To be 1/2 american
If it’s possible in my life I will do ..
also must find that godmother ,
because I been to ABA bank and they will not let him have
the $$$ in our joint account since he is a minor
They want to totally keep it all away from him
So that’s another dilemma

Stressful to worry if anything happen now ,
I would have to live 8 more years until he is (14 ) not a minor anymore
To get his own $$ .
How can they do that ? What can I do ?

พิซออนเดอรูฟ ®

Dude, you’ve been talking about doing everything you can do for him for as long as I can remember. You could get it done but instead you complain how difficult it is and how it is the government’s fault by making it so hard.

Yo can get it done but you don’t want to put forth the effort. You claim you care about him so much, quit talking about doing something and complaining about the process and just get it done.

Kenr wrote: ↑Fri Jan 05, 2024 4:56 pm

pissontheroof wrote: ↑Thu Jan 04, 2024 7:28 am

Freightdog wrote: ↑Wed Jan 03, 2024 11:24 pm

pissontheroof wrote: ↑Wed Jan 03, 2024 8:59 pm
so a bit useless to even try the " report of birth abroad " , no survivor benefit there
.. unless i could do it with just a DNA test . but whats the point ?

Would it not be worthwhile at least giving him that possible option for his own future? Register the birth, give him the future choice.

Yes , will do everything I can for him . For his god given right .
To be 1/2 american
If it’s possible in my life I will do ..
also must find that godmother ,
because I been to ABA bank and they will not let him have
the $$$ in our joint account since he is a minor
They want to totally keep it all away from him
So that’s another dilemma

Stressful to worry if anything happen now ,
I would have to live 8 more years until he is (14 ) not a minor anymore
To get his own $$ .
How can they do that ? What can I do ?

พิซออนเดอรูฟ ®

Dude, you’ve been talking about doing everything you can do for him for as long as I can remember. You could get it done but instead you complain how difficult it is and how it is the government’s fault by making it so hard.

Yo can get it done but you don’t want to put forth the effort. You claim you care about him so much, quit talking about doing something and complaining about the process and just get it done.

EXACTLY
all talk and thats its> hasn't done shit

all it takes is going to the embassy and filing a CRBA<

If you are a U.S. citizen (or non-citizen national) and have a child overseas, you should report their birth at the nearest U.S. embassy or consulate as soon as possible so that a passport and/or Consular Report of Birth Abroad (CRBA) can be issued as an official record of the child’s claim to U.S. citizenship or nationality. The U.S. embassy or consulate will provide you one original copy of an eligible child’s CRBA.

They MIGHT ask for a DNA test

I would definitely do the DNA thing if that was the only thing they needed but
the embassy said I have to fill out the birth abroad thing and that’s impossible
Because the mother is insane , illiterate , basically still on ice .
Definitely didn’t register him with her as mother or me as father .
I just made her her 1st I.d. card to make his passport , she was srey whatchacallit her whole life
at the hospital for her kids and even her arrests where in her made up name
There are no prenatal records . I have pictures of us together from when the baby was a baby
up until the cops got him away from her for extorting me .
And I still supported her for a few years past that . And even recently bailed her out of the clink and paid some her bills .
I wish she would …. cease to exist ..
I was gung ho to get it done during covid but the applications from the embassy
was too intense. . I wanted to escape and take him to hawaii But , but , but ….
Now I wouldn’t want to go there if I could We did get his cambrodian Passport
I haven’t given up but , I’m still treading water .

Hoping for the best and expecting the worst ..
i allready wasted $20,000 for a lawyer for another kid and not trusting any lawyer again
I’m not eligible for social security ( survivor benefits ) for him
He will not get the $$ in my joint ( him and me ) ABA account
Or even my g.i. life insurance if he don’t get registered as my heir

SNAFU ! To the max ..

newkidontheblock wrote: ↑Fri Jan 05, 2024 8:59 pm

ItWasntMe wrote:

newkidontheblock wrote: ↑Thu Jan 04, 2024 7:46 pm

ItWasntMe wrote:Money
Fame
Power

What we want is also different from what we need.

I want a peaceful simple life. Thank god Missus shares these same values.

For those that crave power and fame, there’s never enough. It can destroy families. The wife wants more, the husband says enough. She wants to divorce him just on that alone.

What if you had two buttons, press one for money, fame and power or, press the other for nothing.. ?

Isn't "not wanting" the above just another way of saying one has given up on trying to achieve it?

Not so simple as pressing buttons. Nor as simple as framing it as ‘giving up’.

There is a cost for power and fame.
Sacrifice of kids, family, spouse, health, life. Seeing it play out already in the small Khmer circle here.

I myself almost died early just trying to amass money.

Which is more important to have?

What defines happiness is individual.

I honestly have no clue, am just another fool under the sun presenting ideas, seeing what the reaction will be.